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Coaching a Toddler to Become an 'British Gentleman' – Does It Justify the Cost?

Child education concept
The firm responsible for the advert claims that what seems like "luxury or peculiarity" is actually "purposeful investment in early-stage instruction".

"A family residing in north London is looking for an remarkable and qualified educator to assist their youngest child on his initial journey to becoming an British gentleman."

When reading this listing, you might naturally overlook the phrase "beginning" as simple a turn of phrase.

But, it might be the most significant element of this distinctive employment listing, as it aims to recruit a mentor for a one-year-old.

Numerous of applications have now been submitted since the unnamed family advertised their call for the £180,000 per year tutor, who must be "someone very special".

In recent few weeks, the listing has received notice across the press, with several questioning why?

Innovative Idea

A tutoring expert, CEO and founder of Tutors International, which is assisting the family in their hunt, explained that despite first doubt, he viewed the concept "far sighted", and "progressive".

When he spoke with the family, he said they understood the atypical aspect of their requirement, and how immature their son is.

But, they stated that they "preferred not to postpone any longer" to get a tutor, as they had held off until their firstborn was five, and by that stage "cultural influence had already taken hold".

But what did the family indicate by "cultural leaning"?

It's "comprehensive", the expert responded. "The manner you eat, the manner you speak".

He explained the older sibling had picked up "very nuanced, body language" from the family, and had assumed their cultural norms. The family told him they hoped to prevent this pattern to recur with their new baby.

The strategy: To hire a English tutor, who should speak with RP, to guide the baby from day one.

Tutoring discussion
The tutoring agency say the listing has sparked a larger debate about how parents view schooling, elitism and the role of home and culture in learning.

Subtle Influence

"Much of the education at the start here is kind of acquired indirectly," said Adam.

It's via this natural absorption that the family are hoping the child will acquire the UK customs they want to instil.

The consultant said the tutor had to be an individual who studied at "the appropriate educational institutions – similar types of schools as the family plan to send their son to".

"The tutor simply needs to be the appropriate candidate, they'll be carrying out things they may not realize they're doing, just naturally," he added.

Cost Not Relevant

The family informed the expert the chosen tutor should ideally also have familiarity of or interest in equestrian activities, alpine skiing, artistic pursuits and instrumental training so as to shape the child in a broad spectrum of hobbies.

More than that though, he stated the family hoped the tutor to register the child on a variety of classes so the child would be "pony-riding and starting an instrument by the time they are approximately three years old".

In the family's perspective, helping their son develop into a "English gentleman" will result in success and provide access.

"Taking into account the rights and wrongs of that, because it's undoubtedly a status symbol," he notes.

But, notwithstanding all this tutelage in "UK identity", might the child absorb alleged cultural influence from the globally influenced family he lives with anyway?

"Absolutely", answered he. "They understand this might not succeed, but they've merely embraced the view of, 'why not attempt it and we'll proceed as soon as we can', because the cost of it is irrelevant," he explained.

Overly Optimistic

There are some in the private teaching field who share those concerns.

An education leader, head and founder of an educational organization, who supplies private tutors, commented that "the journey of adopting dual cultures, or in fact, forming one's identity, is something that must be lived into, not engineered."

The expert explained that he had moved from the Far East to the Britain at the period of childhood, and had been raised experiencing and practicing both cultures. He went on to study at Cambridge University.

Peter Cui portrait
Peter Cui was the pioneer originating from the People's Republic of China to be selected to the post of Treasurer of the Cambridge Union Society.

"The idea that one individual can serve as a representation of UK identity, a person who can somehow transplant the characteristics of a UK sophisticate to a one-year-old child, appears optimistic and unfeasible," he commented.

"In my experience, engaging a quintessentially British tutor from babyhood will not automatically achieve the goal they want.

"I did not have such a figure, and yet I have been privileged enough to live many of the situations they hope for their son."

He stated: "The reality is, cultural identity cannot be forced from the external environment; it must be selected, and it must originate internally."

Acquiring Englishness

Of course, English culture is something the CEO believes can be taught – and sold.

"In my view the situation that the global community views us in this regard is something that we should be cherishing|valuing|appreciating

Written by

Emily Sanchez

An environmental scientist and sustainability advocate with over a decade of experience in eco-friendly living and green technology.

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